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The
Illusion of Control Majority
of our grief
stems from our desire to control things around us. We do not just want
to own things,
we want to control them. [There is an illusion of control we create for
ourselves, for our pseudo satisfaction.] This is sure recipe for
disaster. That
we simply can’t control things or happenings around us is a fact that
must be
accepted at a conscious level. [So what, if we are dying to tell our
boss that
it’s okay to be late, or wish to see our spouse listen to us when we
speak, or
better still, wishing to win each cricket match played with Pakistan!] But
things have their own way
of taking shape. The Great Designer up in the heavens, alone, knows
what or
which shape of the things is better for us. But we keep brooding over
things we
can’t have any control over; and that reduces us to be complaining
creatures,
or worse still, turns us into cynics. Let
this illusion of control go! Once we do this, calm descends; and we are
able to
think in a rational way. Certainly
we can’t control
the things around us, but surely, it’s possible to control our
reactions to it.
Our behavior alone is what we have control over. We can choose to be
angry, fuming,
weeping or shouting when someone or something hurts us; or we may just
smile and
do not let others have the comfort of enjoying our suffering. How we
respond to
a crisis, or say, a situation [social or individual] is important. We
can hold
night-long candle-light vigils, or go on long marches as pleases our
changing
whims. But we can also think of doing something constructive, something
positive, for our nation, for our community; may be, helping a poor
neighborhood kid with his Maths lessons, sharing a few good jokes with
our
lonely elders, or earning some extra bucks to be donated entirely for a
good
cause? The choice is ours. Peace to you all.  Ms. Asma Anjum Khan Editor-in-chief |
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